Hi Roomsponsor,
How have the past few months been for you? Lockdown was a strange time, but I’ve made the most of things by cooking and cycling to help stay positive. I’d like to share with you what I’ve been doing – and how things have changed for me since I arrived here at YMCA two years ago.
Growing up, my dad had anger issues and would ignore us. He hit me and my sister and called us names. I remember he used horrible words to describe my sister. He was physically and mentally abusive towards both of us for years.
When I was 14, I was removed and taken to live with my grandparents. But that relationship started to break down and when I was 17, I was placed in foster care. I enjoyed it there; they were nice, supportive people. But I wasn’t used to kindness and began to sabotage it. Because of everything I’ve been through growing up, I was on a self-destructive path and I didn’t know how to look after myself. I started drinking lots and got into a real mess with debts.
At 19, I had to leave my foster carers. I became homeless and started sleeping in a tent. That was the point things hit rock bottom, really. I felt so low and couldn’t see any future for myself. I had no drive, I felt nothing. I’d given up hope to be honest with you.
But after a week on the streets, I was referred to YMCA – and that’s when everything changed. I got my own room, I felt safe and secure, and finally had the help I needed from people who cared. I remember being so grateful, and thinking I never want to go back.
Justin, my key worker, was supportive and encouraging. He helped with my mental health, and helped me to understand myself better. He’s a good laugh, too, and that helps when he points out my self-destructive behaviour and sets me on a better path. He encouraged me to achieve what I want, and I’ll always be thankful for that.
The best experience so far was when I was accepted into college. I’ve always been good with my hands and when I started carpentry, I realised I was good at it. This was the start of getting my life back on track and creating a future to be proud of. I completed the level two course six months faster than anyone else, as I was so focussed.
Now, I’m in my final year of a three-year course, and it couldn’t be more perfect. I made a bar for the college to use at a fete. I designed it, built the frame, made the whole thing from scratch. When woodwork comes together like that, it’s so rewarding. I know this is what I want to do in life; it’s become a real passion. I’d love to have my own carpentry business in future.
Recently I’ve started upcycling wooden pallets to make flower boxes. We’re hoping to sell them in the local community to raise money for YMCA. I’ve had so much support here, selling these flower boxes is a way to give something back.
Putting a positive shine on people’s day really matters to me, so during lockdown, my friend and I started cooking together for the other residents. I used to work in a restaurant as a kitchen porter and got interested in cooking; I really enjoy it! We’d get up early and go out to collect food donations from local supermarkets, then batch-cook a chilli or a roast for everyone. People kept coming back for more so I think they liked it!
I’ve also started cycling. Back when we were only allowed out for an hour, I made the most of it by going out on my bike – sometimes riding up to 20 miles a day. I’ve always liked biking, but now I love it and it gives me a healthy hobby. Now a group of us from the YMCA go out cycling in the evening together.
Looking back, I can’t believe how much has changed in my life since coming to YMCA. The team here have helped me turn things around. And I feel I can trust them and talk to them whenever I feel low. Last year, I even received an award for ‘Most achieved resident’ at YMCA. That gave such a boost to my self-confidence. I didn’t realise the staff had seen such good in me. YMCA has saved me and shown me my own potential.
Finally, I want to thank you for supporting YMCA. The generosity of people like you is the driving force behind everything that happens here. And without this opportunity, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Your kindness is transforming the lives of many young people, just like me, and I’m so grateful.
Kind regards,
Ryan
Life is so exciting when the support of others opens doors and increases opportunity. it is wonderful to hear your story and I hope your career goes from strength to strength. I love cycling too – not as admiral as you because its an e-bike but I’m always happy to cycle 20-30 miles up hills and down valleys because suddenly I can! I can understand your pleasure from cycling and your sense of achievement – well done and good luck in the future – I know you are well on your way!
Well done. What a great story. Very inspiring! I’m pleased to be a supporter of YMCA.
Hello Ryan, I found your letter very uplifting and was particularly gladdened by your finding carpentry.You obviously have an artistic leaning. It sounds as if it’s what you should do for a living. I notice you said that you would like to do it as a business and I agree that seems like the right course for you. However, doing it is another thing. Working for yourself can be rewarding both financially and emotionally but you need to seek help to guide you over the minefield of self employment. I used to be a volunteer for The Prime’s Truat, using… Read more »
That’s so wonderful Ryan . Keep up the good work ! I’m so happy that my contributions can help young people turn their lives around after such a terrible start. Well done also to all at the YMCA !
Your story is inspirational Ryan and a credit to yourself and to the YMCA; you’ve taken many positive decisions and showed huge initiative in helping not only yourself, but other people. You’ve provided a compelling argument for donating as a room sponsor which I can share persuasively with others to help the YMCA’s work.
I wish you all the best for your future.
Ian
Ryan, you are an amazing young man coming through all you had suffered as a child and teenager and now finding your feet at YMCA, you have achieved so much in a very short time. You should be very proud of yourself !
I really hope, that college continues to go well for you and that you achieve your ambitions. Keep up the cycling, it is a good way of exercising the body and the mind. I am delighted, that my small contribution helps someone like you to rebuild their life.
Lots of luck, Norma.
Dear Ryan, As a ‘room sponsor’ I was particularly interested to hear of your past, and current, exploits. Well done for all your endeavours to transform your difficult early years into a brighter future. Being a retired Silversmith, and teacher of some fifty years, some of my student’s (most of which were adult) also had a troubled start in life so I appreciate what it took to put yours behind you. I used to tell my students “there is no substitute for skill” and whatever these are they will not only help you to progress your life but provide immense… Read more »
Well done Ryan. There’s so much you can be proud of in what you have shared. Lockdown has been challenging for so many young people but you’ve really managed to find the positives in it all. All the best keep following your dream
What positivity from a young person with a difficult start to life. Keep going as you’re now on the right road.
Let us know when and how you intend to sell your upcycled wooden pallets….. you may have a ready customer base.
Good luck! 😊
I’m so sorry to hear about your very difficult times and I’m so pleased that the YMCA has been such a support for you and that you have turned your life around. You should feel very proud of what you have achieved! It’s great that you have found a passion in life with your carpentry and I wish you every success, for the future, with it. I love cooking too and a good meal always puts a smile on everyone’s face. Wishing you all the very best for the future. Jenny.
Dear Ryan, thank you for sharing your world and where you are today. I’ve just joined as a room sponsor and so pleased to be here. As a Registered Manager of a children’s home I very much get your journey with Foster Parents, trusting and believing that there are genuine people who wish to support and help can come as a shock when you are not use to it. I wish you ever continued success and thank you